We at Everything Cebu want to know the real-life stories of the people that paint this wonderful island with color so we decided to have a heart-to-heart talk with one of Cebu’s inhabitants.
Mary Mae Bayais became the young mother of a much-loved baby boy, Zeke, at the age of 21 and is joyfully caring for him together with her partner, Andrew. While for some couples this kind of new turn in their lives would break them, it has only strengthened Mary Mae and Andrew’s relationship, giving each other room to grow. We got a ton of insights from her that we’d like to share with you.
1.) Does being a mom at your age make life as a mom different from older moms? Why or why not?
Being a mom is difficult, exhausting, yet rewarding. For me, having a baby at a very young age doesn’t make me less of a person and I don't see any difference at all. It's just a matter of acceptance and dedication. As long as we have the urgency and the passion, we definitely will be able to perform our duties and responsibilities.
2.) What’s your most cherished/favorite memory of your child/children?
Everything! I take time to really notice my child while he is still young. The dimples that appear when my baby smiles at me, or how his hand feels in my face, the funny faces he makes when he wants something. I treasure the moments we have together as much as possible.
3.) What was the lowest point in your relationship with your partner/husband? Have you recovered? If yes, how? If no, why? As a couple or as individuals taking separate paths?
While we haven't had extreme low point in our relationship, my partner and I believe that even though things are rough right now, if you and your partner can summon up the courage and the love to commit to making things better, by whatever appropriate means necessary, you will have gotten over the biggest hurdle. Then you both must do your best to remain on good behavior and try being nice and respectful to each other. This will make being a couple less toxic and allow some healing to take place. Remember, love and family are the greatest gifts, and even when you enter the doldrums, there is always a way out.
4.) What’s your favorite thing about being a mom? About your life with your partner?
Every little thing. I wouldn't trade my kid for anything in this world. I love the way he smile, laugh and grow. Teaching and watching him learn is amazing. My baby has completed my heart and filled my life with joy than is imaginable. No matter how old he’ll be or how far away he'll choose to go, I will always love him and support him in all he do. I can't wait to see how change and grow over the years!
5.) What is your fondest memory of your partner as a dad?
My fondest memory can't be picked out considering all the memories of my partner as a dad are my fondest.